Some good advice from Stephen Friedman

So having an hour conversation with Mr. Friedman... below were the only words spoken.
Not sure that this has anything to do with the fact that he is a little ocean boy and get as deep as the deepest part of the ocean.... but i guess it was meaningful and educational ......Enjoy

yesterday is history...tomorrow is a mystery...today is a gift

think outside the box...because thats when impossible becomes possible

The best things in life aren’t things.
Never judge the day by the weather.
Speak softly but wear a loud shirt.
Tell the truth because there’s less to remember.
Strive for excellence not perfection.
He who dies with the most toys still dies.
Impossible is nothing.
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift.
No Rain No Rainbow
I watch the sunrise as often as I can.
I push oneself to the point of excellence, in what ever I do.
The only person that can make me happy is myself.
I go with the flow at the best of times, it’s about enjoying life, why rush...
Meet new people and hear there stories.
Take pictures, because each photo becomes a memory that doesn't get forgotten.
Life is about choices, you get to make

Listen to music; it’s the language of our sole

Day dream, that’s where you can set your mind free

ABOUT GIRL...

When a GIRL is quiet ... millions of things are running in her mind. When a GIRL is not arguing ... she is thinking deeply. When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions ... she is wondering how long you will be around. When a GIRL answers " I'm fine " after a few seconds ... she is not at all fine.

When a GIRL stares at you ... she is wondering why you are lying. When a GIRL lays on your chest ... she is wishing for you to be hers forever. When a GIRL wants to see you everyday... she wants to be pampered. When a GIRL says " I love you " ... she means it. When a GIRL says " I miss you " ... no one in this world can miss you more than that.

Life only comes around once make sure u spend it with the right person .... Find a guy ... who calls you beautiful instead of hot. who calls you back when you hang up on him. who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who ... kisses your forehead. Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats. Who holds your hand in front of his friends. Who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have you. Who turns to his friends and says, " That's her!! "

WELCOME TO MY WORLD....

Some days things unfold in my life in a way that make me wonder why I am so certain that I need to diligently plan and work and try to make things come out right. Oh, I'm not suggesting that planning and working don't sometimes pay off, don't sometimes render hoped-for results. But when you follow the impulse that comes from a deep stillness without the smallest thought or a shadow of an expectation about the outcome and then watch as things effortlessly unfold in a way you would not even have dared imagine, it makes you question all this trying, this dark certainty that everything must be earned or fought for. It makes you consider grace and the blessings of a human life that are ours simply by virtue of being alive. It opens you to the possibility of real surprises. It reminds you of how limited our perspective is, of how we often can't even imagine what is possible as we take a deep breath and plunge into another day, throwing a load of laundry into the dryer and stacking dirty dishes in the sink as we rush to make the morning bus, juggling deadlines at work against parent-teacher interviews, cringing as we vow once again that this will be the last time we pick up fast food or order pizza for dinner.
But sometimes, unexpectedly, a quiet moment finds us and we drop down into the life we have beneath all the rushing and the trying and the endless daily details, sinking into the fertile soil of the sometimes neglected inner life, where the seeds of remembering what matters are planted. What comes from that place when we give it half a chance flowers in our lives and the world, creating unexpected changes in the direction of our journey and offering unanticipated blessings to us and those around us.

THIS SPACE

This space is between the letters in the word “beauty”

Occupied by what you cannot hold in your heart or your mind

This space…is where life manifests and where words are constructed

A vastness beyond the sound whispered and from time’s ticking clock's obstruction

This Space is still, alive and free

Nothing will ever live out their colorful life there

This space is beyond consciousness

A loving tranquility where no thought can penetrate its existence or disarm its power

Relationships.....life.... men

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slow is better
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then no, you can't be "friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, he probably is. Don't stay because you think it will get better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who have a bunch of children from a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate to his.
Maintain boundaries in how a man treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything, he will use it against you later.
You cannot change a mans behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are ... even if he has more education or a better job.
Don't make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone elses man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending ... compromise is a two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships ... there is nothing cute about baggage ... deal with your issues before persuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you ... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals ... look for someone complimentary ... not supplementary.
Dating is fun ... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr Right.
Make him miss you sometimes ... when a man always knows where you are, and you are always available for him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar.
Scared of being alone is what makes alot of women stay in relationships that are abusive and hurtful: Dr Phil.
If he was attracted to you in the first place, just know that he's not the only one.
Take care of your own heart.

FRIENDSHIP

A simple friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders soggy
from your tears.

A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names. A real friend has
their phone numbers in their address book.

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend comes
early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after they have gone to bed. A real
friend asks you why you took so long to call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about their problems. A real friend
seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend wonders about your romantic history. A real friend could
blackmail you with it.

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest. A real friend opens your
refrigerator and helps themselves.

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you HAVE an argument. A real friend calls you after you had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for them. A real friend
expects to always be there for you!

RISK

To laugh is to risk appearing a fool
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental
To reach out for another is to risk involvement
To expose your feelings is to risk exposing your true self
To place your ideal, your dreams before a crowd is to risk their loss
To love is to risk not being loved in return
To live is to risk dying
To hope is to risk despair
To try is to risk failure

Yet risks must be taken
Because the greatest hazard in life is risking NOTHING

The person who risks nothing
Does nothing
Has nothing
Is nothing

Self-realisation is harder than
Self Sacrifice

LIFE

Life is an opportunity, benefit from it. Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is bliss, taste it. Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it. Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it. Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it. Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it. Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it. Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it. Life is life, fight for it.

GOSSIPING

I read this interesting story about Gossip the other day:

A woman repeated a bit of gossip about a neighbor.

Within a few days the whole community knew the story. The person it concerned was deeply hurt and offended. Later the woman responsible for spreading the rumor learned that it was completely untrue. She was very sorry and went to a wise old sage to find out what she could do to repair the damage.

"Go to the marketplace," he said, "and purchase a chicken, and have it killed. Then on your way home, pluck its feathers and drop them one by one along the road." Although surprised by this advice, the woman did what she was told.

The next day the wise man said, "Now go and collect all those feathers you dropped yesterday and bring them back to me."

The woman followed the same road, but to her dismay, the wind had blown the feathers all away. After searching for hours, she returned with only three in her hand. "You see," said the old sage, "it's easy to drop them, but it's impossible to get them back. So it is with gossip. It doesn't take much to spread a rumor, but once you do, you can never completely undo the wrong."

So what is gossip and why are we so willing to participate in it?

It is a sad truth that people cannot love you for just you, that they are easily persuaded to believe anything, & enjoy participating in the story line of a good bit of gossip.

I think it is a matter of self love actually.

If you don't love yourself, how is it possible to love another human being for who they are?

So anything that people do affects you and threatens you.

There is a saying: "People talk about you and bring you down because they cannot be at the level you are, so they need to bring you down to their level"

I sit here saddened as I think of times when I have been shamed before the ones I love & those who are suppose to know my heart.

Yes, I have cried in secret & died inside to a level of joy & trust I once felt.

If I could change one thing in this world, it would be this...

It is true that some things are better left unsaid.

That you really do need to walk a mile in another mans shoes & that if you haven't got anything nice to say...don't say anything at all.

Soulmate

There's no such thing as the perfect soulmate.
If you meet someone and you think they perfect, you better run as fast as you can in the other direction cause your soul mate is the person that pushes all your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis and makes you face your shit.
It's not easy having a good marriage, but you don't want easy.
Easy doesn't make you grow.
Easy doesn't make you think.

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